There was a time I could move there was a time I could breathe A balanced relationship is one where the only opinions and boundaries that truly matter are the ones between the partners. When you start to let the outside world dictate your boundaries, you have already abdicated control in the relationship. Depending on the opinions of others to evaluate whether you are in a healthy relationship or not is a sure sign that relationship is not balanced. You feel like your current relationship is being judged on the merits of (or lack of) the past relationships. This perceived persecution can happen when you have been in a few too many unhealthy relationships. Because he has made mistakes in the past, he is envisioning his friends are condemning him to repeating the same mistakes.
The singer is complaining about not being taken seriously by his friends. With all my friends then my friends start telling me that I’ve always been wrong Lately life’s been the same I find this comfortable place There’s people throwing drinks and screaming telling me that I don’t belong A balanced relationship doesn’t give more significance to one person’s needs over another. The ‘people looking back at me” are the people you have trained to expect nothing but smiles and compliance from you. When you spend too much time focusing on keeping everyone else happy, your ignored needs and frustrations are going to come out sooner or later. I was trying so hard to keep my partner happy that I forgot to pay attention to the fact that I was miserable. This really resonates with me because this has happened to me a few times in past relationships. The singer is making a scene which is out of character for the people-pleaser in him. I found myself in a place that I never beenĪ place that I thought that I would never be You can’t make everybody happy all of the time The song starts off with the singer lamenting where he is at this point in his life: Being able to recognize the symptoms of an unsound relationship and a balanced one is the gift I have found in “Paranoia in B Flat Major”. Feeling paranoid is so foreign to what is present in a healthy relationship. The fact that the Avett Brothers have written a love song with this word in the title makes me smile because I know that they will find a way to make it sound perfectly reasonable. Paranoia is defined as a mental condition characterized by delusions of persecution, unwarranted jealousy, or exaggerated self-importance.
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